As the end of the year is approaching everyone’s to-do lists are growing longer. You may find yourself at the end of a request from a friend or family member that you do not have the time, energy, money, or desire to do. In order to prevent adding unwanted stress to your own to-do lists learning how to say no is increasingly important.
Just say no. Don’t dance around the request with saying “maybe” or “oh, I just don’t know”. No is a strong statement, don’t be afraid to use it.
Be clear. Don’t elaborate on your reasons or justifications for saying no. A simple, direct reason is all that is needed.
Be confident. Don’t leave room for others to manipulate or guilt you into doing something you don’t want to say yes to. Be bold, direct, and say no with confidence.
Be honest. Tell the truth as to why you are saying no. It might be uncomfortable, but don’t make up a false reason. Nothing is worse than being caught in a lie.
Be respectful. Explain that you are supportive and appreciative of their request but it is just something you can’t say yes to.
Say no…again. Prepare yourself to say no multiple times for the same request. Don’t waver and give in; say no again, be clear, be confident, be honest, and be respectful. Saying no doesn’t come easy to all but it does gets easier with practice.
Lastly, don’t worry that you are going to become like Jim Carry in the movie Yes Man! Learning how to say no doesn’t mean you forget how to say yes. Just remember to stick up for yourself and say no when needed.