Do you ever feel like you are Pinocchio? Tied down, controlled by others, trapped, and not free to be who you want to be? When you think about control, often people think of “control” as a bad thing- as something negative and to avoid. But having a sense of control over your own life is one of the secrets to being happy and being able to let go of stress. Feeling like you have some control in our life gives you peace, confidence, soothing, and even, truth be told, a bit of trepidation. But when it feels like others have control over your life, it’s easy to feel defeated, hopeless, bitter, and at their mercy.
So often, you spend your time worrying about things that are actually within your control. Yet somehow, it’s easy to think of yourself as being at the mercy of others, which gives them the control (whether or not they know it or even care if they have control).
Here’s an example:
Things to Do to Be a Real Boy
- Contact a fairy.
- Listen to your conscience.
- Tell the truth.Things to Do to Continue Being a Puppet
- Ignore the fairy.
- Do whatever you want to do.
- Tell lies, especially when you are scared of getting in trouble or of hurting others.
But there’s one more piece to this, a piece that stops most people from being successful: having something to turn to when you think it’s not possible.
When I Think There’s Nothing I Can Do to Be a Real BoyI probably have more control over becoming a real boy than I might think. I can make it more likely by doing the first list of things and not the second list of things. I really want to be a real boy and it’s worth doing these things, even if I feel uncomfortable or put out.
But the most important thing you’re going to add to the bottom of that list: a reminder for when you think there’s nothing you can do to (fill in the blank). Once you decide what you’re going to take control of, tell someone (or comment below and share with me here). There’s something about sharing a goal with someone else that makes you more accountable and more likely to follow through on it!