Is your relationship tense? Do you feel like most conversations turn into an argument? Have you ever wondered if your partner even gets you? Or are you trying to decide if your relationship can or should be saved? Here are the tools you've been looking for…
When was the last time you felt connected, understood, and supported by your partner? It's easy to get into a rut. It's also easy for that rut to become the daily reality.
The stressors that face couples are immense. From work demands, to helping your children with their homework, to trying to finish your degree, there aren't enough hours in a day as it is. And the piece most people let slide without even meaning to is their relationship.
Why? Because when there's a never ending to-do list, the thing you tend to put off is anything fun, anything rewarding, and anything that has to do with you. When you have sick kids, dishes that need to be done, laundry that needs to be folded, and an overflowing trash can, cuddle time on the couch is the fun that gets put off until the next day.
And the next day.
And the next day.
And before you know it, you're humming “You've Lost That Loving Feeling.”
And then you feel guilty for not spending time together. But when he tries to cuddle up and even beg for more, it's hard to feel sexy, energetic, or even connected enough to go further (enter one of the classic relationship situations: he wants sex and you don't- or vice versa).
Relationships of any kind take work, but romantic relationships really take a lot of work.
No one ever talks about what that work is exactly.
No one breaks it down into do-able steps that you can implement to stop fighting and start connecting.
No one ever gives you a check-list for what to to and what not to do (but there are tons of them on how to baby-proof a house or on anything else under the sun).
There are a lot of facts about relationships, but sadly, not everyone knows what those facts are or where to find them (that's where I come in).
In fact, people like me can actually chart them out and can predict them- there are some situations where it's actually normal to experience some growing pains in your relationship. (Doesn't that make you feel a bit better?)
Just like children take extra work when they are teething or become teenagers, relationships have some similar stages that require extra understanding and skills to navigate through.
- How to have a conversation that gets somewhere
- How to keep from fighting all of the time
- How to decode what your partner is really saying (and really meant)
- How to make sure you've heard the right message
- How to share your needs in a way that increase the likelihood of them being met
- How to heal and forgive from past pains
- How to strengthen the trust in your relationship
If you're ready to reconnect to a life of love and fulfillment with your partner, here are the options:
Why are Relationships so Hard?
Book coming 2017
Are you tired of never saying the right thing to your partner? Do you ever keep things to yourself to keep from fighting, adding more distance to your relationship, or feeling misunderstood and alone?
If so, you're not alone. Many couples find that they avoid opening up and sharing because it never leads to anything good. So instead of making things more difficult, that painful distance starts to grow.
In this course, you'll find out:
- How your relationships have changed over time (this is why some of your grandmother's advice doesn't always work in your life)
- How to make a safe place for conflict (this shows you how to change fights into connecting conversations)
- How to decode and connect with your partner (this is where you'll learn why they don't get what you've been trying to tell them, and what their actions really mean)
- How to cope with crisis
To find out more about the course or to register, click here.
Marriage & Couple Counseling
If you're in or around the Greenville, NC, area and you're ready for individual guidance for your relationship, let's talk! Even if your partner isn't willing to come in with you, we can still work together to create a personalized plan to enhance your relationship. Many couples have found a lot of relief and success in their lives either working with me together or with just one member of the partnership.
To get started, fill in the boxes below or click here to go on and schedule an appointment.
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