Do you know that something has to change, but you don’t think you can actually get away with it? Do you think that if you were to stop worrying, that you would jinx yourself? Does it feel like everyone around you would revolt if you stopped catering to them? You don’t have to know how to get there…
I wish I could donate worry like my friend donates blood. Every 4-6 weeks, she gets a call from the American Red Cross, asking her to come in and give. Both of them have each other on speed dial. It’s like they both go through withdrawals without seeing each other on a regular basis. She’s great a ambassador for caring for others and a wonderful example.
But I digress. Go give blood and save your fellow humans. And then come back to this page and finish reading because this stuff will also save a life. Your life (and you matter).
So, like my friend, I want to donate- worry that is. I pass out at the sight of blood and really freak out so I sadly have never donated blood. Even so, if there was a way to suck out the stress and anxiety in my life, I would happily sign myself up for a few minutes of grief if that meant that the next 4-6 weeks of my life would be filled with peace and tranquility. I would also drag a friend there with me to hold my hand while I passed out.
But since I haven’t found a way to start a non-profit where people can donate their worry by extracting it out of themselves and giving it to another, more deserving person, I have devoted my time on this blue and green world to bringing happiness to others sans needles and pain. Be it from my kitchen, my therapy office, through my wit and warped views, or this blog, I am your humble servant in getting rid of your stress.
The best place to start is by looking internally. I know, I know. You probably panicked just a teensy, tiny bit when I said that and started to click away (please don’t- I promise this will be much easier than facing a needle 🙂 ). Truly, though, looking inside is the first place to start when it comes to decluttering all of those pesky little thoughts that play on repeat inside your brain all day long.
You know those thoughts I’m sure. The ones that tell you that you aren’t any good and no one will come to your funeral and that everyone secretly cringes every time they see you call or text or just show up. I won’t keep listing them because I’m sure you don’t need any help remembering what all of those messages are that constantly roll across your mind. I’m not here to permanently etch those things into your memory. We’re going to focus on shifting them.
Stress and worry begin within. It’s all about your perception.
Most days, your perception doesn’t match reality. But perception weighs in a lot more than the facts. So that’s what takes over and guides your decisions and the way your view yourself. (I really want to write in first person here, because I’m certainly a member of this club, too. However, the marketing books tell me that I need to use second person, so “you” it is. Just know that you are not alone on this one and I am right by your side. My perception is absolutely not reality. I come from a long line of paranoid people and, well, I’ll just leave it at that for now, LOL. I’m sure you’ll learn more about them the longer you hang out with me.)
Because your perception doesn’t match what others tell you, it fuels your confusion and doubt. This is what you will change. No more confusion. No more doubt. You’ll know how to cut through all of that.