Taking Care of Yourself: What Adults Get Wrong

Please tell me I wasn’t the only kid who rolled their eyes when their parents said it was hard being an adult.

PUH-lease.

No one could ground you. No one could threaten to spank you. You had no bedtime. If you wanted to eat a cookie, you didn’t have to ask for permission.

You could just LIVE.

Each time I would protest that it wasn’t fair and that I couldn’t wait to grow up, my parents would say, “Being a grown up isn’t easy. We have bills to pay. We have you kids to take care of. And we can’t just do whatever we want.”

why peter pan But I didn’t believe them. Being an adult was fun. And EASY.

And I couldn’t wait.

In fact, one of my high school teachers wrote in my yearbook, “I hope you enjoy the real world.”

I must have been pretty vocal about my desire to be an adult, 🙂

Then I started college. I remember laying in bed several nights, pinching myself because I couldn’t believe it had finally happened: I was on my own. I was grown and I could make decisions without getting grounded. (I didn’t, however, escape a few evil stares at times. LOL.)

I started to see what my parents had been talking about: being all grown up and in charge of your own life was hard. It was doable, but hard.

In the words of Kenny Rogers, you had to know when hold ’em and know when to fold ’em. You had to know when you needed to go to bed, or else you’d be too groggy to get up in time for class. You had to know how to do your job, or else you’d make a customer mad. You had to know when your professor was in a bad mood, so you time when you asked if you could take your test later.

As time went on, the situations just got harder. Knowing the right to do in each situation got harder and harder. (OK, it gets harder and harder for everyone, no matter how old you are.) The pressure to make the best choice seems to rise with age.

And I’ve made a discovery: the easiest way to meet the demands is to just stop thinking about yourself. Think about everyone else’s needs. Then, the only person you let down is yourself. Who’s going to yell at you for that?

No one.

Except yourself.

Though you may not mind doing it during certain times, living that way day in and day out doesn’t do you (or anyone else) any favors. Not to mention, it’s one of the biggest stressors that I see women struggle with in their lives.

Before you can decrease your anxiety, before you can enrich and enhance your relationship, before you can decide on your boundaries and how to get others to respect them, you have to work on how you view yourself. If you aren’t committed to taking care of you, then in the world should anyone else think about your needs?

So I have created a class to help you make this essential shift in the way you think about yourself.

And to make it easy for you to make this decision (and to follow through on it), I’m giving it via phone, at 8:00pm, and for free.

You don’t have to get dressed up. You don’t have to go anywhere. You don’t need to hire a babysitter. You don’t have to even be there live during the call. If you are busy, you can listen in later.

You do, however, need to make sure that you sign up so you can be a part of the class. You’ll get worksheets, handouts, an mp3 recording, and new insights that will help make it easier for you to make being an adult fun again.

All you need to do to sign up, is click over to this page, and look for the boxes to enter in your first name and email address. You can even learn a bit more about the class there, too.

If you have any questions about this, just reply back and let me know! And, please share this with any friends, co-workers, or family members that you think would like to be a part of this class, too.

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